The holiday season is upon us. For many, that means family, food, and good times. But, if you’ve been struggling with forgiveness, the holidays are a time of sadness and feeling like something is missing.
If you have been struggling with forgiveness this holiday season is the time to finally make amends. Whether you think you’re not ready to forgive, or you have some other reason, here are reasons you should finally say, “I’m sorry.”
More People Die During the Holiday Season
I used to work in a nursing home. During the holidays, more people would pass away than any other time of the year. It was depressing. It was heartbreaking and it was out of anyone’s hands. According to an article by CNN, more people die of natural causes on Christmas Day, the day after Christmas, and New Years Day more than any other day of the year.
If this isn’t a good reason to let by-gones be by-gones, I don’t know what is.
A New Year is Upon Us
“Out with the old, in with the new.” We all have probably heard that saying sometime or another, so why not get rid of anger and forgive before the New Year?
You’re Only Getting Older and so are They
I remember the day I got the call that my uncle passed away, unexpectedly. It was shocking. No one expected it. For weeks, my mother felt bad about the things she didn’t do with him. No one knew he would be gone, so soon, but he was. We couldn’t have prepared for it and, truth-be-told, you never can.
That’s why it’s so important to make amends, NOW, rather than, later. Even if you don’t feel ready to say, “I’m sorry,” do it. You can work on the forgiveness together. It’s better to have one day with your loved one, rather than, a life filled with sorrow and regret that you can do nothing about.
Forgiveness is a Burden
Whenever you’re holding onto a grudge, it’s easy to pretend it doesn’t bother you. Truth be told, though, I bet it does. Grudges are a burden. You always think about them and it’s always over your head.
Forgiveness Doesn’t Show Weakness
There’s a common misconception that forgiveness shows weakness, but that’s not true. Forgiveness takes strength and courage.
My husband and I once cut off ties with a family member. It was a long couple of months before we finally decided to forgive them and get in touch. By that time, they had changed so much that we couldn’t believe it. Although things were awkward at first, our relationship with them now, couldn’t be better.
Just like the father in “I Can Only Imagine” movie, people do change, give them a chance.
Even Jesus Could Forgive
Yep, I went there. We all know how bad Jesus was tortured when he was nailed to the cross. But, even He could forgive.
If Jesus can forgive, why can’t you?
I understand forgiveness isn’t easy, but if you pray for the strength, I know God will give it to you!