Today, as we celebrate our 8th year anniversary, I’m reminded of just how little I knew when I got married. We both never really understood the what it took to have a successful marriage. There were so many things we didn’t know eight years ago.
We thought it would be easy. When you’re young and in love, you don’t ever think there will be hard days. You think waking up to the person you love and never having to leave them will be all you need. You don’t think about the money troubles that many new couples fight about or the in-laws, or even the kids that cause added stress to relationships. Marriage is hard y’all, it’s really hard, but it’s one of the best things ever to keep fighting for.
Weddings aren’t the best day of your life. Many young brides think their wedding day will be the best day of their life, but it’s not. The day you bring a new life in this world is way better than your wedding day. There will be so many moments in your lives together that the wedding day is just the icing on top of the cake.
The most important thing to do at your wedding is take photos. Since I got married, I’ve realized some of the best treasures I have from my wedding are my photos. In just 8 short years, my husband and I have lost so many family members and those pictures of them at our wedding our priceless. Brides, grooms, make sure you get those pictures, it may be all you ever have to remember those loved ones by.
Never going to sleep angry is a lot harder than it sounds. People always say, the key to keeping a marriage strong is never going to bed angry. But that’s not as easy as it sounds. There’s going to be fights, long, bitter fights, but forgiving each other at the end of the night is always worth it, no matter how hard it is to suck up your pride.
You need God to make it work. My husband and I spent hours doing marriage counseling with the pastor and his wife before we got married. One thing that always stuck with me, was how they told us, you need God to make a marriage work. It’s true. Without God, so may things can and will go wrong. It’s always best to say, the couple that prays together stays together.
There may be times you won’t want to even look at your spouse, but you’ll still love them just as much as you did yesterday, if not more. If someone would have told me, I could be so mad at my husband but still love him, I would have thought they were talking crazy talk. In marriage, you’re bound to have fights, you’re bound to want to beat each other up, but you won’t because you’ll still love each other no matter what.
Getting to do everything together for the first time is even better than doing it yourself. The day I found out I was pregnancy with our first child was absolutely amazing, but, the day I went into labor, I was terrified. Thankfully, my husband was there and made it so much better for me. I seriously wouldn’t have wanted to do it without him. We have done so many first together that it’s incredible how many things I can’t imagine doing without him. My first time going to a concert or driving to a random place on the map…
We equal each other out and it’s like we really are meant to be. There are things I hate doing, things I can’t do and the same goes for my husband. Oddly enough, the things we both hate doing or can’t do, are the things the other one can. We equal each other out on so many levels, that it’s absolutely crazy to think I once functioned without him.